The Honor Window Tool

The Honor Window is a simple yet profound process that takes about 15-20 minutes. You'll work through four quadrants that reveal the invisible dynamics between you and someone you're in conflict with.

Quadrant 3

Quadrant 3

Quadrant 2

Quadrant 2

Quadrant 1

Quadrant 1

Quadrant 4

Quadrant 4

What to expect

You'll need:

  • Paper & pen to draw your Honor Window as we go

  • 15-20 minutes of uninterrupted time

  • Willingness to be honest about your judgments

  • An open heart

Resistance at first

Resistance at first

Uncomfortable naming

Uncomfortable naming

Surprised by what you discover in Quadrant 4

Surprised by what you discover in Quadrant 4

Emotional as walls come down

Emotional as walls come down

Relief as your suffering eases

Relief as your suffering eases

Compassion for both yourself and them

Compassion for both yourself and them

Clarity about what to do next

Clarity about what to do next